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Overcome Grief and Loss
You're Not Grieving Wrong
You’ve probably heard people casually say that grief is just something you’ll have to live with forever. A few might have said that you should be “over it” by now, or that you must go through all five or seven stages.
None of that is true. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve and no fixed timeline you’re “supposed” to follow.
Just realize that if you’re still suffering, and grief is limiting your quality of life, it means something inside hasn’t shifted yet. Fortunately, you can change that if you really decide to do something about it.
When Grief Gets Stuck
Like all emotions, grief is meant to move through you, but sometimes it gets stuck. Maybe you've experienced:
• Sadness or emptiness that remains with you, no matter how much time has passed
• Guilt or regret over things said, not said, done, or left unfinished
• Anger at the situation, at others, at yourself, at God, even at the one who’s no longer with you
• Replaying their final days, or “what if” and “if only,” on a mental loop
• Avoiding the places, photos, songs, or conversations that trigger emotional pain
Your Mind Created Grief...
Here's How You Can Change It
It can sap your energy, too, affecting motivation and engaging in fulfilling activities. Sometimes, sleep suffers and relationships feel distant. The parts of life that used to bring you joy are harder to connect to.
You may logically know that life is meant to go on, and that the person you’re grieving wouldn’t want you to keep suffering. But emotionally, part of you is still trying to hold on to what you lost.
Why Time and Talking Don’t Always Heal Grief
You’ve probably tried a lot already.
Grief counseling and support groups can bring comfort and a place to be heard, and for many people that support feels critically important. Leaning on friends and family helps you feel less alone. And almost everyone tells you to simply give it time.
But notice that most of that is designed to help you cope with the pain, manage the rough days, and prepare for the triggers: anniversaries, birthdays, or the empty chair at the table. It helps you carry the weight, but it usually doesn’t take the weight away, because you’re still holding it.
Gina Goodwin Tells How Hypnosis
Helped Her Heal from Grief
Grief is a feeling you can’t talk your way out of, because it runs deeper than conscious understanding. It lives in the perceptions, beliefs, and meaning your subconscious has attached to the loss. You can know, consciously, that your loved one would want you to be happy and still feel a lot of grief.
Most of the people who come to us for help with grief had already tried therapy, support groups, or “giving it time,” and still felt stuck. In all the years we’ve helped clients recover from grief, we’ve seen a consistent pattern. Once the subconscious perceptions that cause grief changed, the seemingly endless pain finally ended.
Take the first step toward peace
This process begins with you.
Seeing us 1-on-1 is the fastest and most effective solution.
The Deeper Solution
Grief tends to be seen like something you have to endure until enough time passes. But the real issue isn’t how much time you give it but the meaning your subconscious mind has attached to the loss.
Here’s the part that surprises people: grief is entirely subjective. It isn’t created by the loss itself but by your perceptions, beliefs, and the meaning your subconscious assigns to it. That’s why two people can experience the same loss and react very differently.
That’s the proof that grief is more about the person feeling the grief than anything else.
Using hypnosis for grief is a structured way to work with the subconscious mind, where those perceptions and meanings are held. Instead of helping you manage the sadness forever, we use hypnosis and NLP to:
• Shift the perceptions that cause suffering
• Release the emotions that are stuck (sadness, guilt, regret, and anger)
• Reconnect you with appreciation for your loved one and your relationship
As those subconscious perceptions change, the grief gives way to gratitude for who they were, what you shared, and everything that stays with you.
If resolving grief feels a bit scary, you’re not alone. Many people hold onto grief because they’re afraid that releasing it means that they've stopped loving them. That’s not true. Your love is real, and it remains. What causes the suffering is emotional attachment and dependency, and that’s what you want to release. When you do, your loving connection becomes something you can carry with appreciation instead of heartache.
This isn’t about forcing yourself to “move on” or pretending the loss didn’t matter. It’s about finally being able to release something you’ve carried so long you didn’t realize that you can let it go.
After you’ve healed from the grief, you can remember your loved one without sadness, guilt, regret, or anger. The pleasant memories are more accessible. You sleep more easily, feel lighter, and give yourself permission to live a fuller life.
It doesn’t matter whether your loss was a few months ago or many years ago. Once the underlying perceptions shift, the relief can come quickly and completely…if that’s what you truly want for yourself.
Your Next Step
Helping people achieve emotional balance and acceptance is one of the things we do best. If you’re ready to stop carrying the weight and remember your loved one with peace instead of pain, schedule an initial consultation.
We’ll talk through what you’re dealing with, what’s been keeping the grief in place, and what a realistic path forward looks like.
Take the first step toward peace
This process begins with you.
We'll guide you the rest of the way.
“Todd truly saved my life. I was going though a terrible break up and could not seem to get out of my own way. I had tried medication and therapy and nothing was working so I decided to try something different.
The change in my life and way of thinking over the course of 8 sessions was indescribable. I not only was able to work again and get out of bed but now can handle and look at all my relationships differently.
Todd gave me the tools to move forward with my life and be happy again.”
Loni Paige
“The issues I had before I met with Gina were related to my brother taking his own life. I was present for it and saw him right before he did it, so I pictured that daily. I also had just indulged myself with poor or unhealthy habits, not taking care of myself.
I can't imagine what it would be like had I not started working with Gina. I used to picture the day my brother died over and over in my head. Now I can no longer see that picture thanks to the eye movement therapy we did, as well as listening to the hypnosis audios. I sleep much better. I'm completely off Zoloft. I have much healthier habits. I'm exercising regularly. I don't sit there and think about the worst-case scenario happening in my life.
Gina helped me realize how powerful my mind is and what I can do to help myself. This was totally life changing for me. I would never have thought therapy over Zoom could be as powerful as it is, but it was for me. I can't recommend it enough.”
Rhonda Snyder
“When I was initially recommended hypnosis as a solution to my fears and grief, I was skeptical.
My brother passed away 8 years ago and since then, I had been unable to cope with the loss. I had also developed an extreme fear of death. I had seen therapists, practiced yoga, all to no avail.
Within two [hourly] sessions with Todd, I had already conquered my fear of death. Hypnosis allowed me to relax and gain perspective for a much more balanced and peaceful life. After completing all of my sessions, I had let go of the grief leftover from my brothers’ death and I had completely rid myself of my irrational fears.
Being able to remember and celebrate my brother’s life instead of constantly grieving over his death has been such a blessing. I have so much positive energy flowing through me day-to-day. Hypnosis WORKS.
Todd always made me feel so comfortable and he was truly a joy to work with. I can’t believe I suffered for 8 years and was able to so easily solve all of my issues within weeks. I cannot thank Todd enough!”
Amanda Taylor
“I wish I found Gina sooner! After experiencing a traumatic loss, I was deep in grief and experiencing symptoms of PTSD that were preventing me from functioning at a healthy level in my daily life. I did months of traditional therapy, followed by a full round of EMDR. They both helped, but only to a point. I was still suffering every day.
I knew there had to be another way, so I kept searching and eventually came across Gina and Todd’s videos and podcasts on YouTube. I knew she was exactly what I was seeking, so I booked with her right away. She did not disappoint! Through her innovative (and dare I say fun?) techniques, not only was I completely cleared of the residual PTSD symptoms, but the quality of my life as a whole increased in wonderful ways.
In just a few key moments in our sessions, she was able to effectively clear what traditional therapy and EMDR could not clear in MONTHS. I genuinely wish the work with her had been my first course of action, because it would have saved me so much time and unnecessary suffering.
I’m so grateful I found her. Gina absolutely has my whole-hearted, highest recommendation.” ❤️❤️❤️
Amber Shannon
Hypnosis can be a powerful tool to help you:
- Reach true acceptance of your loss
- Release the emotions that have gotten stuck
- Remember your loved one with gratitude
Frequently Asked Questions
It’s normal in the sense that most people experience it, but it isn’t necessary or inevitable. When grief does arise, it doesn’t have to last long.
In fact, some cultures don’t mourn death the way ours does, which tells us that grief is partly shaped by learned societal beliefs.
The good news is that anything you learned can be unlearned or relearned.
The depth of pain you feel after a loss reveals how emotionally attached you were. The more we emotionally depend on someone or something, the more we suffer from their absence. If you didn’t need it, losing it wouldn’t hurt. After all, you don’t grieve the loss of someone you disliked.
In that sense, grief works a little like a craving: it’s the pain of wanting what we don’t have. That’s simply how the mind works. Your mind responds to your perception of reality and not objective reality itself. So when we help you shift how you think and feel, you dissolve the grief.
We’ll be honest and sensitive with this one. The grief itself isn’t a sign of love. Your love is real, but what causes the suffering is emotional attachment and dependency, how you had grown used to their presence and relied on it. We’ve had clients who felt intense grief over losing a home, a job, or money, and that’s clearly about needing those things, not loving them.
Consider this...assuming the person you lost loved you, they wouldn’t want you stuck in sadness on their behalf. Many people find that celebrating their loved one’s life honors them far more than grieving them does. Releasing grief never means forgetting them or loving them less. It means holding them in your heart with appreciation instead of pain.
You can tell yourself consciously that you’ve accepted it, but the real test is how you feel and act. If the sadness and tears are still there, then on a deeper level you haven’t fully accepted it yet.
Acceptance happens in the subconscious mind, where your beliefs, emotions, and habits exist. Until that happens, a part of you keeps resisting what happened, and that resistance manifests as grief.
Once you shift your perceptions, the resistance dissolves, and you’re able to feel emotionally balanced without having to remind yourself.
Support groups can be a real comfort, especially early on. While there’s nothing wrong with leaning on one initially, it’s worth being aware of a potential trap.
Sometimes the support itself becomes a reason to stay stuck. After all, if getting better means leaving behind the connection, friendship, and sympathy you’ve gained from the group, part of you may resist healing.
This is known as secondary gain – when staying stuck provides a hidden benefit, or getting better carries a hidden cost. It shows up with many long-lasting challenges, including depression, addiction, chronic pain, and especially grief. It’s completely unconscious and unintentional.
For this reason, it’s best to rely on support only as a bridge to healing, and not as a substitute for it.
No, it’s not too late, and the amount of time that’s passed is less important than you might think.
Grief stays active as long as the subconscious perceptions that cause it are still there. We’ve helped clients release grief they had carried for years, even decades, and many find it easier to gain a new perspective after some time has passed.
Once the underlying pattern changes, the relief tends to come quickly, no matter how long you’ve lived with the pain.
No. One of the things people appreciate most about our approach is that you don’t have to retell the whole story or relive every painful detail to find relief.
Other methods that require you to talk at length about your loss can be emotionally painful, exhausting, and repetitive. That’s one reason many people avoid facing their grief or trauma, and so they continue to experience suffering thoughts in the background of their life.
Fortunately, we need only a brief understanding of your situation to help you. The techniques we use to shift perceptions and clear emotionally charged memories typically involve only a few moments of discomfort and provide rapid and lasting relief.
Take the first step toward peace
This process begins with you.
We'll guide you the rest of the way.
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and clients nationwide via Zoom
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and clients nationwide via Zoom
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Testimonials by former clients of Todd or Gina Goodwin are true and factual. Goodwin Hypnosis, its officers, and personnel, do not imply or claim that these comments represent typical results. Results vary depending on age, gender, lifestyle, motivation, and individual commitment to achieve a desired result. These clients voluntarily offered their feedback and were not compensated in any way. Each comment is the opinion of one person at a specific time and should be considered only in that context. Comments may reference conditions or medications in the client's own words; see our Scope of Practice.
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