Relationship Tip #1

  Thank each other for everything. There’s no need to be effusive when someone takes out the garbage, but it’s nice to show and be shown appreciation for even the most everyday obligations. Positive reinforcement always works best. This week, tell your lover, husband or wife how grateful you are for the little things.

   This is a really good example of how a little can go a long way. I can attest to how much of a difference the simple act of saying thank you can change the dynamic in relationships. It’s not a matter of going over the top, but more so of being genuinely grateful for the little things your partner does for you. If you’re running around late and your partner has a cup of coffee ready for you because they know you like coffee in the morning, but you wouldn’t have time to make it, thank them. Little things like that are the  types of things that at times we may take for granted because we have become accustomed to having our partners do them for us, but they have meaning.

   These little things, however, are not things that your partner is obligated to do, I mean if we get down to it your partner is not really obligated to do anything, but on the contrary, they are things that your partner does out of consideration for you. It may not seem like a big thing, but that simple act of gratitude for their thoughtful actions means a lot. It lets them know that you appreciate them and all they do, no matter how small and let’s be honest, how great of a feeling is that? Remember when you are grateful for what you have, the universe responds by sending you more to be grateful about. It works the same in a relationship. If you show genuine appreciation, your partner is more inclined to continue to do things that you will be grateful for and the overall tone of the relationship will be one of more positive, loving and supportive interactions.

  Oh, and by the way… a thank you smooch never hurts either 😉