Hungry for Love You may have heard the phrase, “It’s not what you’re eating, but what’s eating you.” I could recount numerous such client examples. A few years ago, a physician I know referred Jane, a 60-year-old woman who had been overweight for years and was in an unfulfilling marriage of 30 years. She had […]

In the previous post, I dismissed a long-held myth that events cause trauma when it’s the perception of those events that is ultimately responsible. Memories are the Key to Unlocking Trauma In recent years, neuroscience research has confirmed what skilled practitioners of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) have known for decades, which is that memories are imperfect […]

In my last post, I shared my firmly held opinion that trauma is the cause of many of our emotional and behavioral challenges. Events Don’t Cause Trauma – Perceptions Do It bears repeating that it is the belief, perception, or meaning that developed (the root) as a result of a past experience (the seed) that […]

In the previous post, I provided a useful metaphor for understanding the personal problems many of us have and why talk therapy often fails to get rid of the mental, emotional, or behavioral weeds that grow in the garden of our lives. Discovering the Underlying Roots In recent years, I have become thoroughly convinced that […]

Last time, I discussed the relationship between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Once you understand that relationship, it’s important to realize that merely analyzing and talking about thoughts, feelings, and behaviors rarely change them. Why Conventional Therapy Falls Short Most of the clients I’ve seen over the years who had endured long-term therapy were not told […]

In my last article, I introduced the fundamental problem with treating symptoms, rather than resolving the underlying causes. Most health care professionals, especially physicians, are either unaware or willfully ignorant of three key insights that – once understood – make treating health conditions much easier. The Emotion-Behavior Connection First, it is the irrational, short-term-oriented, subconscious […]

There is a parable of a man who was so frustrated by his constant and ever worsening headache that he continued to pound his head against the wall in frustration. He stopped the pounding for a few minutes every hour to take an aspirin with a shot of whiskey. It was only during those moments […]